Tantra Yoga: The Meeting of Heaven and Earth

Thanks to the sense of guilt instilled by the Christian-Catholic culture, we are used to thinking of sex and spirituality as two elements at opposite ends.

Yet, think about it: it is through sex that man and woman create life, come together in love, and can experience ecstatic experiences. Doesn’t it seem incredible to you? What is closer to spirituality? What is more powerful within us? Precisely because of the power it releases, sexuality has long been condemned and associated with impurity.

In the Yogic-Tantric tradition, which has its roots in ancient ascetic practices of millennia and developed in the centuries of the Middle Ages, spirit and matter are two sides of the same coin, different frequencies of the same spectrum of energy. From the elevation of sexual energy, emotions, personality, higher feelings, creativity, and everything that makes us human is generated, as described in the classic Chakra model. Heaven and earth meet in us, although many Yoga practitioners ignore (or prefer not to consider) this reality.

Tantric massage, often confused with a practice aimed solely at physical pleasure, is an evolutionary tool available to the human being who desires to be deeply rooted in the earth, but stretched towards heaven and spirit. It is not easy to grasp this essence at the first experience, but over time it can offer you awareness of the body, the release of ancient emotional knots, the rediscovery of a healthy personal power, and greater connection with the spiritual reality of which we are a part.

Does this mean that physical pleasure is not important? On the contrary! It is the first step on a path towards healing and meeting the soul. The important thing is not to stop at that first step.”

Waiting for Anna

The massage table is ready. The oil and the room are warm.

She will arrive in 15 minutes, but I have plenty of time to gather my energies.

I close my eyes and start to breathe deeply. When the time comes, Kundalini will have to do its part. Pleasure depends on it, but nature will take its course.

Inhale, exhale… I ground myself and draw strength from the earth.

Inhale, exhale… I bring the vital fluid up high until I feel it in my head. Today it takes a little longer.

When she lays naked on the table and closes her eyes, she will be like all the others but unique at the same time. Perfect as nature intended, whether she is 25 or 50 years old, with a lean or soft physique.

I put my hands on my heart while mentally reviewing the movements. I will spread the oil before starting, so I don’t have to think about it anymore. The body will be shiny under the candlelight and slippery under my touch.

I will continue incessantly with this breath, while taking care of her. It will become our breath, because even if she probably won’t notice, the rhythm of the air synchronizes between us when the dance begins.

Strong on the feet, intense on the legs and glutes, gentle on the belly… even though the most sensitive parts are those that many other massages overlook, those that even during the heat of passion most partners forget.

The hand plows decisively between the breasts, caresses the sternum, and kisses the mound of Venus; it delicately wraps around the inner thigh, brushing against the labia majora and ending its journey on the hips.

I briefly open my eyes. Is the chair close enough? I cannot stand when I dedicate myself to her pleasure, because that is a never-ending moment, to which I will devote all the time that is needed. There, heaven and earth meet for an infinite moment.

When the shivers and tremors subside, I will rest my wrists for a moment and wipe my forehead. After washing my hands and bringing the oil cup closer, I will massage her face and head for the last few minutes. Almost no one does it, but that is the part I prefer.

The background music brings me back to reality. And it will do the same for her when, after 90 minutes, I whisper softly, “we’re done.” But before she fully awakens, I will cover her body with the towel and let her rest for another five minutes before getting dressed.

What was that noise?

What is Tantric Massage and What Does it Feel Like?

You can call it erotic massage, naturist massage, sensual massage, or holistic integral massage, but none of these names accurately describes it.

The authentic tantric massage is an experience that, depending on your sensitivity and state of consciousness, can be lived in different ways.

It can be experienced as a physical and relaxing massage that treats every part of the body (including the intimate parts) and that allows you to experience intense and repeated orgasmic pleasure.

It can easily become an intimate moment with yourself, which contributes to the acceptance of the body, the deep listening of kinesthetic sensations, and which culminates in the liberation of sexual energy.

Over time and with practice, it can greatly amplify and become an ecstatic experience that unites body, mind, and heart, and that, through the elevation of sexual energy, brings you to a sense of universal connection.

Whichever way you experience it, the practice is not a form of therapy (although it can have therapeutic effects) and requires maximum respect for your time and listening to your needs. The practitioner who performs it remains fully clothed.

About Pleasure and Uniqueness

We are all so different from each other!

Women are all so different from each other!

If there is one thing that a massage therapist can never, ever know, it is what their massage is really like, because you either give the massage or receive it. You can’t do both. So, you can only know your massage through the testimony of other people who receive it. And even in this case, the experience is certainly different from words.

I practice tantric massage only on women, given the intimate nature of this discipline. But every single woman on whom I do it is a universe of her own, each one is completely different from the others.

The body is different because each one grows with her own characteristics, emotions are different because each one has experienced her own “traumas,” character is obviously different because each one has her own preferences, and pleasure is extraordinarily different because, unlike men who are much simpler, every woman has a unique and different innervation of the intimate parts.

Moreover, not being a woman, I had to learn mainly through feedback from women (who are not always willing to talk), as well as through observation and sensitivity.

Fortunately, there is calibration, that is, the ability to read a person from the signals they unconsciously transmit. Breath says a lot about a woman experiencing pleasure, eyes say a lot (which are generally closed during the massage), but also skin, body temperature, and changes in the most sensitive areas.

Fortunately, there is intuition and empathy, that is, the ability to feel a person experiencing pleasure, even if this quality requires years of training.

Fortunately, there is energetic resonance, which in some special situations allows you to experience the same ecstasy that she experiences.

Two. Not one more.

I have received several massages in my life. And you can tell when the person doing it is present in their gestures and when they are not; when the massage is done with love and when it is not. Then there are all the other issues, such as technical skill, intensity, dedication in providing a service, and preparing the environment for the best.

Two massages per day. Not one more. If I were to do more than two massages a day, they would lose their magic, my mind would go elsewhere, and my hands would act automatically. The beauty of it is to be present, possibly with two people, breathing together.

Certainly, each person will choose the massage therapist they like best, the one they feel most in tune with (especially if we’re talking about tantra!) and you can’t please everyone. But one thing is certain: the pursuit of perfection and love in massage makes a difference and I have always given it my all.